The Valence Method

The science of connection —The art of relationships.


We offer relationship resources, a supportive community, and expert coaching to help you date smarter.

Valence Method Services.

  • Learn: Your Assessment

    Take the Valence Method Relationship Assessment to understand your emotional patterns and dating style. Grounded in psychology, it delivers a personalized Connection Profile that highlights your strengths and growth areas.

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  • Grow: Tools and Resources

    Our tools—from conversation scripts to reflective prompts—are designed to build real-world connection. Each resource helps strengthen your core relationship skills and supports more intentional dating.

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  • Connect: Join others

    Join conversations to share dating insights, get perspective from others’ experiences, ask for advice on real-world situations, explore diverse viewpoints, and celebrate your wins along the way.

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  • Support: Personalized Coaching & Connecting

    Sometimes the right guidance unlocks real change. Work directly with a coach—individually or in small groups—to gain clarity, build momentum, and stay aligned with your goals.

    We are also working on a service to connect individuals with their forever bond.

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