About Valence
In science, valence describes an atom’s capacity to bond — the number of connections it can form. Molecules come together through these bonds to create something new, stable, and strong.
In relationships, your emotional valence is your capacity to connect — to bond with intention, awareness, and reciprocity.
The Valence Method is built on this idea: real connection doesn’t happen by accident. It begins with understanding your capacity to bond — and choosing to grow it.
How We’re Different
Unlike dating apps or traditional matchmaking, The Valence Method offers:
Research-informed tools grounded in real data, not trends.
Inclusive guidance for all identities, orientations, and relationship goals.
A whole-person approach that reflects real-life complexity—not clichés.
Support across life stages — from early career to retirement, from divorce to new beginnings.
Affordable, meaningful structure to help you connect with intention — with yourself and others.
We don’t promise instant chemistry. We help you build lasting connection — one intentional step at a time.
Who We Are
We’re not therapists. We’re not matchmakers.
We’re professionals who’ve lived the realities of modern dating — starting careers, navigating transitions, balancing family, and trying to stay open without burning out.
We know what it’s like to doom-swipe at midnight and wonder if real connection is still possible. That’s why we built what we needed: a science-informed, emotionally grounded, real-world-tested framework for dating and relationships.
Our work draws from relationship psychology, adult development theory, behavioral science, and lived experience. We translate the research into clear tools and practical frameworks that help you:
Understand your patterns.
Clarify your goals.
Build relationships that last.
This isn’t about finding “the one.”
It’s about becoming someone who knows how to connect — with self-awareness, clarity, and intention.