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The Valence Baseline — Free
A 3-minute diagnostic mapping your dating patterns across 5 dimensions: Signal, Selection, Reading, Decision, and Connection.
You'll see where you're strong, where you're blind, and which dimension is costing you the most.
No fluff. No generic "love language" labels. A pattern map built on behavioral science from Stanford, Harvard, Yale, and Princeton research programs.
Time: 3 minutes
Cost: Free
Output: Your 5-dimension snapshot — on screen, immediately
Go deeper. Self-guided. $67.
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The Valence Profile Assessment(beta)
A deep assessment generating a comprehensive, personalized report — delivered to your inbox.
This isn't a longer version of the free quiz. It's a different product. The Baseline tells you WHERE you score. The Profile tells you WHY — and gives you the exact plan to shift it.
What's inside your report:
Deep breakdown of all 5 dimensions with percentile rankings
Your blind spot pattern: how your dimensions INTERACT to create a specific failure mode you can't see from inside it
Compatibility matrix: which partner profiles actually fit yours vs. which ones feel good but cost you
30-day personalized action plan: 3 specific behavior changes sequenced for YOUR scores
"Your Next 5 Dates" tactical guide: what to do differently starting tonight
Time: 17 minutes (assessment) + 15-20 page personalized report
Cost: $67 one-time (free for a limited time!)
Output: Your full Valence Profile — personalized PDF delivered within 24 hours
What people say after reading their Profile.
“The blind spot section was scary accurate. I’ve never had someone describe that pattern back to me.”
“I knew I was caught in a pattern but couldn’t name it. Now I can.”
“I used my profile insight with my dating coach and the combination had significant impact!”
“The next 5 dates section has been a great resource for me when getting back out there”
“It’s the Myers - Briggs of the dating world.”
The Valence Method is the methodology layer your clients need. You teach confidence, communication, and presence. We provide the structured signal-reading and decision framework that makes those skills land.
Referral partnership. Send your clients to VM for the methodology work. They return sharper, more self-aware, and ready to apply what you teach.
For coaches and practitioners.
The Method
Five Dimensions. One Framework.
The Valence Method measures dating behavior — not personality. Personality is fixed. Patterns are changeable. That's the point.
Signal — The silent cues your digital and real-world presence sends. Are you broadcasting who you actually are — or performing a version you can't sustain?
Selection — The deliberate criteria you use to filter who gets your time. Are your choices matching your standards — or is chemistry overriding them?
Reading — The skill of decoding character and consistency early on. Are you reading behavior patterns — or being captured by first impressions?
Decision — Knowing exactly when to commit, pivot, or walk away. Are your stay/go decisions forward-looking — or driven by sunk cost and fear?
Connection — The tools to handle tension and protect long-term intimacy. Does conflict bring you closer — or push you further apart?
FAQ
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Personality tests tell you what you ARE. The Valence Method maps what you DO — specifically in dating. Patterns are habits, not identity. They can change. That's the entire point
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The framework applies whether you're swiping tonight or processing your last relationship. Your patterns exist whether you're using them this week or not. Most people find the Profile most useful BETWEEN relationships — when they have space to actually shift something.
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No. This is measurement and strategy — not treatment. If you're working with a therapist, the Profile often accelerates that work by giving both of you a shared framework. But it doesn't replace clinical support.
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The Valence Method draws from peer-reviewed behavioral science including work on affective forecasting (Gilbert, Harvard), digital authenticity (Hancock, Stanford), communal relationship dynamics (Clark, Yale), and emotion cognition (Nook, Princeton) — combined with 20 years of direct behavioral observation.
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That's useful data in itself. The places where your self-perception diverges from your measured behavior are often the most important patterns to examine. The report isn't telling you who you are — it's showing you what you do.
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Take the free Valence Baseline. Three minutes. You'll know immediately whether you want to go deeper.