FAQ.

  • A research-backed dating methodology that covers four dimensions: how you show up, who you choose, how you read people, and how you decide. Built on 40+ years of relationship science and 20+ years of professional expertise in human behavior and development.

  • No. The Valence Method is a methodology — not clinical treatment. It does not diagnose conditions, treat disorders, or provide crisis intervention. For clinical support, seek a licensed professional. The Valence Method complements therapy — it does not replace it.

  • No. Dating coaches typically sell confidence, scripts, and mindset work. The Valence Method is a structured framework — tools, protocols, and behavioral strategies grounded in research. It teaches a skill, not a performance.

  • Anyone who dates with intention — regardless of gender, orientation, age, or stage of life. Whether actively dating, starting over after divorce, or re-entering after a break.

  • Apps help you meet people. The Valence Method helps you know what to do with them. Apps optimize for engagement. The Valence Method builds a skill that makes every interaction — on or off the apps — more intentional.

  • Matchmakers sell access to a pool of people for $5K-$50K. The Valence Method teaches a skill that works on anyone — wherever you meet them. The skill is yours permanently.


  • Yes. No credit card. No email gate for results. 15 questions, 8 minutes, immediate results.

  • A personalized written analysis of your Bond Baseline results across four dimensions. Where you're strong, where there's opportunity, and specific behavioral tools calibrated to your approach. Written individually — not auto-generated. Delivered within 48 hours.

  • Yes. The methodology draws on four bodies of evidence: Gottman's 40+ years of longitudinal relationship research, behavioral economics of partner selection, attachment science, and behavior change science. This is not pop psychology or personality typing.

  • The methodology works whether actively dating or preparing to start. Many people find it valuable to understand their approach before re-entering — not after.

  • Yes. The framework applies regardless of gender or orientation. The dimensions are universal — how you show up, choose, read people, and decide.


  • Yes. The Valence Method was built in part from that exact experience. Starting over in a dating landscape that looks nothing like before is precisely when a structured approach matters most.

  • The Valence Report is written individually based on your results — refunds are not available after delivery. The Bond Baseline is free, so start there to see whether the framework resonates before investing further.

  • Bond Baseline: Free. Profile Guide: $29. Valence Report: $39. Connection Playbook: $49. Self-Paced Course: $149. Full pricing and details on the Work With VM page.


  • There are actual humans that have lived what it is like to date in an environment that does not set you up for success. These humans apply personal experience along with 20 + years of coaching high performing individuals.